My rude awakening

This morning I was woken up by ‘thud’ ‘thud’ ‘bump’ ‘thud’ and a very disgruntled couple of males. My son had decided to be extremely antsy toward my partner and kicked him in the shins twice before shoulder charging him, and storming off out the door.

This has been building up over the past few days, since I gave my son the news that very shortly we would be involved with well-stop. Ask me what Well-stop are later on, as at this stage I have no idea. All I do know for certain is that this place could possibly help us further develop a sense of well being for my son.

Although I have not been through all the other things we have done over the years with my son, I have decided to get this down while it is still in my head. We have been through health camp, mentors, counsellors, psychiatrists, respite care, you name it, we have done it. It has not been in vain, as with every step there has been progession forward.

Up until mid to late last year I thought this was all to do with the time my son was with his father. I have found out since that this is not the case. There was another huge event in my sons life that has helped shape my son’s view of the world. (At this stage, we are still working with the police and counsellors on this matter, so I can not discuss this any further. As soon as the police have made an arrest or whatever it is they do, then I will be more able to talk of this matter.)

Anyway, back to the topic. After following my son down the path and calling him twice, only to be ignored, I returned home and told my partner to go get him home. My partner went after him.

Shortly after I sent my partner out I realised that this could be very bad. Having had time to think, I decided the best course of action would be to call the police and at least advise them what was going on. (We have had a few dealings with the police and my son’s temper.) They advised that they would be sending someone to bring my son home.

After half an hour or so the police showed up with my son in tow, and after taking statements from us all they dropped him off at school.

Later on today my partner and I have our first meeting with Well-Stop. I informed my son of this four days ago and since then he has had problems sleeping, eating and generally been grumpy.

I have found that if we give him news of a new process about to be undertaken, that he reacts this way. Also, if we give him sudden notice of something, he acts very much the same way, but the effect is more rapid.

Some people say this is my son being spoilt, and us giving in to him too often. I do not believe this to be the case, as I believe we are quite strict on the children, and try to maintain as balanced a life for them both as we possibly can.

Sometimes ensuring the basic necessities for a happy life is just not enough. Every now and then children really do need to be wrapped in cotton wool for their own safety, and your sanity. In saying this, it is possible to have balance in strictness and in love. I try to show my children every day how much they mean to me, and how much I love them. Just sometimes, however, the message gets lost in communication. But I still try every day, all the same.